How do you recognize if your kid is getting bullied? Is it just something that kids do to other kids and eventually grow out of it? When should a parent or an adult intervene? Sometimes you do have kids who are extremely sensitive and cry at the drop of a hat. So you as a parent have to find out if there is any bullying involved or if it is just a matter of talking to your child. But do not dismiss it at all the times by saying that “You have to handle it on your own.”
Children often play, fight, get angry and then make up with each other. You have to ignore these little quarrels. But if your child is constantly complaining about getting singled out, or being said mean things to, or not wanting to go to school or out to play you should know that it is time to take matter in your hands.
What can a parent do? The following are a few steps that can be taken to stop the bullying from affecting your child.
- Tell your child to ignore the bully at first – You cannot change the world, so start by trying to change your own kid. Assure them that they have done no wrong and the way to deal with such bullies is by giving them no importance. Avoiding the bully and not getting in a confrontation is usually the best way to solve a problem.
- Ask your child to stand tall and proud – Teach your child to stand their ground. No running away and no arguing with the bully. Pretend as if he does not exist. That will make the bully probably stop the bullying as it is no longer fun.
- Bully should be warned that he will be reported – Your kid needs to tell the bully that if his bad behavior does not stop he would be reported to an adult. The bully might try to insult your kid by calling your child names as “tattletale” or a “crybaby”. Tell your child in advance not to react to this name calling.
- Parents eventually need to step in – If the matters get really bad and there is hitting involved parents need to step in and resolve the situation.
Parents are responsible for the well-being of their children. Ignoring such issues might result in your kid developing low self-esteem in the long run, so help the kid out. But do that tactfully !